Tuesday, August 29, 2006

Pubes

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I've been participating in a discussion this morning on how involved a mother should be in educating their sons in puberty and sexuality. I've been told that a mother should allow a man to take the lead in educating a young man because that young man's embarrassment in discussing such things with his mother could impede the fullness of education, not to mention that a woman never experienced male puberty.

Discuss...

10 comments:

  1. Interesting.
    My son never had a decent male role model so it was only me. I guess being a pretty straight forward person, Jimmy and I never had any problems talking about his sexuality and puberty. There was never "THE TALK" it was all sort of talking about it as it came up (no pun intended). Would a man have been better? I guess that really does depend on the boy and his relationship with his mother. If it would cause ANY embarrassment then I would certainly get a guy's help. Again, it is all about the comfort factor (the kids, not the mom's lol)

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  2. I think the Mom's comfort level plays a big part. Don't be coy or
    anything except striaghtforward about puberty, sex and sexual relationships. My husband is military and away a lot, so that
    subject is my domain. Discussing the differences between boys and girls from an early ages makes the need for that one, big tell all conversation unnecessary. My parents had books, gered for kids, of course, available to me and we have made those same books available to my two boys.

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  3. Well I think it's crap. Having raised my kids, the role fell to me and I did it as openly as possible so that they'd talk to me when they felt the need. It seems to have worked, for the most part. If we had to depend on the "male to male", "female to female" only type of education, we'd be screwed. Besides, not all men are capable of delivering the proper education, the same way not all women are proper of delivering the proper education. So I'd say it should fall to the most appropriate parent.

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  4. err...."capable of delivery the proper education". Apparently my fingers are moving faster than my brain.

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  5. And it's messed up again. NEVER MIND.

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  6. it should be left up to the alcoholic divorced neighbor lady down the street...like when I grew up.

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  7. I think it depends on the child & the parent. As some have said, there are quite a few boys who are raised in female headed households with no male to participate. My two sons sure have different ideas about how their daughters (both still under 10) should relate to boys as they grow up than they did while they were teen age boys looking at the girls. I don't know if they will talk with their daughters or the mother's will about the subject but I know they will be following the issue closly.

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  8. Blogger does suck. I have not been able to blog for awhile. I feel lost.

    I don't want to think about the sex talk for another 13 years.

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  9. Well, I never had "the talk" with either one of mine...but..

    well, no offense, but if I had had it...I'd rather it came from my Dad

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  10. for my oldest, I was a single mother and he was good at asking questions. My youngest son did not want to talk "about that" with me. So, we got him a couple of books from the UU Sex-ed series. He disappeared into his room with them. A week later, I asked him if he had any questions, and he again told me that he didn't want to talk "about that" with me.

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