Hi, I'm Becky. I'm a housewife. I have a seventeen year old son. Despite being a good natured and happy baby, his terrible twos kicked in at one year old and they've never gone away. This upsets me.
He's the wall that my head is constantly banging against...one of the biggest reasons I do not work. He needs constant supervision and god, I am just tired.
(My cat Booger feels my frustration. At the moment he's come up to block my screen, rub his head all over my face, and turn around to show me his bumhole like that's some sort of honor I'm due, seeing that I'm the top cat in this house. This is an allegory to how my whole day with my son has gone.)
I don't get it. I don't know what else his Dad and I can do to get through to him just what he needs to do to get out of this sixteen year rut. These traits of his are not traits his little brothers share. They aren't traits we have in any way rewarded or encouraged. They aren't traits that have made him any friends or given him anything but the most temporary and sneaky goodies. These are traits that have caused him quite a lot of loss and discomfort.
He well knows his own traits and figures that he can't fix them because fixing them requires effort...it's hard...or boring...or doesn't result in immediate goodies...this is just the way he is...maybe there is a medication that can fix me...or cuts into time thinking about something else...why bother.
Excellent thinking for today's economy and job prospects.
Yet, this kid o'mine, feels compelled to tell everyone else what they need to do, how to do it, when and with what skills. Especially his five year old brother, who he socked in the gut today while I was in my bathroom and Dad had gone to the grocery store, to reinforce how, in his opinion, one should be cleaning their room even though his own room was itself filthy.
Tonight my teenager is laying in a room with a sparse few of his belongings in it, feeling sorry for himself for getting punished, because if he feels sorry for himself then no other effort on his part can wiggle it's way through. Oh, and a good dose of blaming everyone else for his problems too.
Dear God, grant me the power of The Matrix, where I can just plug an html cord into his neck and program in an a-ha moment....please?
Otherwise, if he indeed joins the Navy like he intends to after he (cross fingers) graduates from high school, he'll fall right on his naive know-it-all face which might be very useful for him but not at all useful to the Navy or for national security. They will not take, "It's too hard." or "I don't know." or I didn't hand in weeks of homework because, "There was a sub." or "I have asthma." when he in fact only had breathing issues with a bout of strep at 10 years old. My son will stumble, down he'll go, he will land hard, and he will feel the pain of this acutely. I'm both thrilled about this life lesson and it breaks my heart, it shatters my heart.
The rub of all this is that he's so smart. He's so damned smart. He's got this amazing brain in his head that he cannot be bothered to use to prove himself up. Kid scored an 85% on his ASVAB...then blew off his college placement tests. Their results recommended he start with remedial courses, you know, the courses you get no credit for in college because they are at an 7th grade level so you can work your way to actual college level courses, that you still have to pay good money for.
Sixteen years of a long road and it's just getting longer.
After this next school year there isn't a damned thing I can do about it either.
(Cat, get your ass out of my way.)
Thursday, June 09, 2011
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